TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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N O POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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C REATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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N O OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
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R IGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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P ERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
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B E PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Monday, November 27, 2006
stress
Last night I had teh tarik & roti canai with Ita. Borak2 till it was 10pm. Sampai rumah, I begin to feel all sorts of feelings.. weird feelings. Gelisah jer.. decided to do some laundry while watching "tyra show" on NTV7. It was fun since last night the topic was about Super Models, beauty tips, models secrets, etc. I still did not manage to sleep till it was about 2am. Called my baby. I was glad that he is willing to entertain me on the phone... at least that helps ease the un-easy feelings that Im feeling.
After the phone conversation, I kept the lights in my room on for the rest of the night. Force myself to sleep. But I woke up automatically for every half an hour. And at 4am, I heard some weird noise at the end of my bed (mine is a wooden bed-frame). It is like something moving and hitting lightly at the bed frame... In instance, I jump out of my bed and searched for the thing.. and it is a huge papa-cockroach! quickly I ran to the bathroom, and took the spray, and it was killed in just a few second!
Finally Im able to sleep at about 5am. This is all because of the creepy story told by my housemate, sharn. she told us that the night before, while she was sleeping, she felt like (actually, she is very2 sure) that "something" is pulling down her socks slowly. The first time it happened, she pulled it up again and pretended as if nothing happened. But when it being pulled down again for the second time, she quickly jump out of the bed, and stayed awake for the rest of the night.... as this creepy or what??
After the phone conversation, I kept the lights in my room on for the rest of the night. Force myself to sleep. But I woke up automatically for every half an hour. And at 4am, I heard some weird noise at the end of my bed (mine is a wooden bed-frame). It is like something moving and hitting lightly at the bed frame... In instance, I jump out of my bed and searched for the thing.. and it is a huge papa-cockroach! quickly I ran to the bathroom, and took the spray, and it was killed in just a few second!
Finally Im able to sleep at about 5am. This is all because of the creepy story told by my housemate, sharn. she told us that the night before, while she was sleeping, she felt like (actually, she is very2 sure) that "something" is pulling down her socks slowly. The first time it happened, she pulled it up again and pretended as if nothing happened. But when it being pulled down again for the second time, she quickly jump out of the bed, and stayed awake for the rest of the night.... as this creepy or what??
Saturday, November 25, 2006
SELENA
Late at night when all the world is sleeping
I stay up and think of you
And i wish on a star that somewhere you are
Thinking of me too
Cause i'm dreaming of you tonight
Till tomorrow, i'll be holding you tight
And there's nowhere in the world i'd rather be
Than here in my room dreaming about you and me
Wonder if you ever see me and i
Wonder if you know i'm there (am i there, am i?)
If you looked in my eyes would you see what's inside
Would you even care?
I just wanna hold you close but so far
All i have are dreams of you
So i wait for the day (wait for the day)
To take the courage to say how much i love you
Yes i do
I'll be dreaming of you tonight
Till tomorrow, i'll be holding you tight
And there's nowhere in the world i'd rather be
Than here in my room dreaming about you and me
Coraz
No puedo dejar de pensar en ti
Como te necesito
Mi amor, como te extra
(translation:
Sweetheart
I can't stop thinking of you
How i need you
My love, how i miss you)
Late at night when all the world is sleeping
I stay up and think of you
And i still can't believe
That you came up to me and said i love you
I love you too
Now i'm dreaming with you tonight
Till tomorrow (till tomorrow) and for all of my life
And there's nowhere in the world i'd rather be
Than here in my room
Dreaming with you endlessly
This song by one of the greatest artist by far is one of my fav song of all time. Back in uni years, I will play this song over and over again... till I sleep. I would fantasize of a fairytale.. Of love and being loved. Except for, I dun have any guy in particular... I just wish that someday, somewhere, a guy would fall deeply in love with me, for who I am, for who I was, and for who I will be.
Anyways, I was watching the movie made in the memory of an artist, late Selena, played by J-Lo. Its a lifetime story of Selena, from the time she was in her childhood, till the day she was murdered. No matter how many time I watched the movie, I still cannot manage to stop my tears from falling. Life can be cruel sometimes.. And it effected my housemate's emotion so much that they could not stop discussing the issue till the night we had dinner... hahaha.. women!
Wonder how did I go thru the weekend in Kerteh? well.. it turn out to be okey. First day was quite though. The day began with us girls spending the morning in Pasar Tani, buying stuff to cook for lunch. It was fun. Cooking, and gossiping in the kitchen. And the rest of the day spent by watching endless movies, reading book, and nothing..
The second day was better. I spent half of the day organizing an event. It was a plant visit by staff and their family members. Reached home at 3. Watched "Selena" with my housemates and later when for cycling with them. This is the interesting part. As we cycle past the beach, Tim, my housemate decided to stop and to admire the beach for a while.. However, it ends up with the both of us, soaking ourselves in the warm, crystal clear water. It was an amazing experience. Not that it was my first time experience in the sea water, but the feelings all together. I was thinking to myself, how can I take this beautiful beach for granted? people from all over Malaysia, took the trouble to travel to small islands such as pangkor, tioman, etc to swim in the clear sea water, whereas, me, its just in the comfort of my housing area, and it is a private beach! what a waste. In short, we had fun. Cycling back to our house, wet and cold, I secretly made a decision in my head, the destination for my honeymoon, that is if I get married, would be a place with beach. Not just a beach, but beautiful and clean beach. Plus a pub/restaurant by the beach is an added advantage, where I can dance under the moon-light with my hubby =) goshh.... the romance movie really had an influence in me!
Thursday, November 23, 2006
The Magic of Love
Love is like magic
And it always will be.
For love still remains
Life's sweet mystery!!
Love works in ways
That are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in life
That love cannot change!!
Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor
And sweetness and grace.
Love is unselfish,
Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart
And not with its mind!!
Love is the answer
That everyone seeks...
Love is the language,
That every heart speaks.
Love can't be bought,
It is priceless and free,
Love, like pure magic,
Is life's sweet mystery!!
- Helen Steiner Rice -
And it always will be.
For love still remains
Life's sweet mystery!!
Love works in ways
That are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in life
That love cannot change!!
Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor
And sweetness and grace.
Love is unselfish,
Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart
And not with its mind!!
Love is the answer
That everyone seeks...
Love is the language,
That every heart speaks.
Love can't be bought,
It is priceless and free,
Love, like pure magic,
Is life's sweet mystery!!
- Helen Steiner Rice -
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
untitled
One of my co's vehicle was issued compound by DOE due to black smoke emission. After being tested, the vehicle was found to be emitting smoke at 82% againts the allowable limit of 48.5%. The issue is that the driver actually kept the compound letter in his tray for the whole 1 month long... and the case is already been brought to the court! And my management is freaking out. As one of Public Affairs staff, I was instructed by the bosses to deal and monitor closely with DOE on this issue since this incident, if being captured by the media, will cost a very high impact on company's image. I have already prepared a 2 pages long and detailed report, a lesson learnt report, and a few other paper work, and the matter will be settled, hopefully by this sunday, insyaAllah.
today is the last day of work for the week... Im not going back to kl though. my mom called just now, and I can hear the disappointment in her voice. Im tired of travelling, hence decided to spend the off day here. Sarah, one of my close friend from kl is here for meeting. We'll find something to do tonite.. karaoke or just relaxing by the beach listening to the live band.
There's a newly open Spa here in my area. From the broucher that I got, the place looks alraight. And the price, mind you, is way too cheap for the place to be actually called spa. I'll give it a try this evening. Body scrub and "mandi susu".... argghhhh.. Im looking forward for the indulgence... Come to think of indulgence, what are the things that actually you found indulging? as for me, chocolate, coffee, and bed will do the trick =)
today is the last day of work for the week... Im not going back to kl though. my mom called just now, and I can hear the disappointment in her voice. Im tired of travelling, hence decided to spend the off day here. Sarah, one of my close friend from kl is here for meeting. We'll find something to do tonite.. karaoke or just relaxing by the beach listening to the live band.
There's a newly open Spa here in my area. From the broucher that I got, the place looks alraight. And the price, mind you, is way too cheap for the place to be actually called spa. I'll give it a try this evening. Body scrub and "mandi susu".... argghhhh.. Im looking forward for the indulgence... Come to think of indulgence, what are the things that actually you found indulging? as for me, chocolate, coffee, and bed will do the trick =)
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Its Been A While
gosh.. its been a while since the last time I was here. Why you may ask. It is convenient to use the excuse that the majority of human being in the world use, which is, "Im busy". Well... I am busy. I've been busy with life routine, with work, with travelling (necessary and those the unnecessaries), with relationship (starting a new one, strenghtening the existing ones, and to end the old ones), with family (considering Im having 2 separate family now), and with other matters.
In a glance :
Im 17kg lighter then I was few months back. Im still stucked here in the, shall I say, un-civilized town. "Chips & Chapathi" is the name of the book that Im curently reading. Spend most of my time on the road, between KL and the stone age.. and everything in between. Found out that my ex-fiance is currently seeing a girl (and she is pretty... yes, I saw her pics). My ex-bf (that Im not attached emotionally at all) is getting married next month. I just add up a year to my age a few days back (hopefully not another wrinkle line on my face).One of my housemate got married last sunday, and the fact that she is the youngest one among us make us feel like shit. One down, seven to go... Seven heaven! The other one of my housemate are engaged last month, and scheduled to tie the knot next April. So there will only be the 6 of us in the
house..
Above all... Im just trying to become a wise women who age gracely, contribute something to everything, and everyone around me, and to be happy, and to be with the people whom I care, and love, and cherish.
In a glance :
Im 17kg lighter then I was few months back. Im still stucked here in the, shall I say, un-civilized town. "Chips & Chapathi" is the name of the book that Im curently reading. Spend most of my time on the road, between KL and the stone age.. and everything in between. Found out that my ex-fiance is currently seeing a girl (and she is pretty... yes, I saw her pics). My ex-bf (that Im not attached emotionally at all) is getting married next month. I just add up a year to my age a few days back (hopefully not another wrinkle line on my face).One of my housemate got married last sunday, and the fact that she is the youngest one among us make us feel like shit. One down, seven to go... Seven heaven! The other one of my housemate are engaged last month, and scheduled to tie the knot next April. So there will only be the 6 of us in the
house..
Above all... Im just trying to become a wise women who age gracely, contribute something to everything, and everyone around me, and to be happy, and to be with the people whom I care, and love, and cherish.
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